Are You Raising A Perfectionist?

By Marilyn Price-Mitchell, PhD

As Brene Brown put so well, “When perfectionism is driving, shame is always in the shotgun seat and fear is that annoying backseat driver!” Perfectionism gets in the way of many of the Compass Advantage attributes, such as resourcefulness, creativity and resilience. Like me, many Bainbridge Island adults and teens I talk to are “recovering” perfectionists.  Explore ways you can help your child learn from mistakes, not fear them.

– Cezanne Allen, M.D.

In today’s culture of high stakes testing and tough competition for college admissions, being a perfectionist is often seen as a desirable trait in children.  But recent studies show that perfectionist attitudes can interfere with a child’s ability to achieve goals and shape their futures. In fact, perfectionists often struggle with depression, anxiety, and low self-esteem.