Read 12 things Bainbridge teens suggest we start or keep doing to help them along successful paths to adulthood!
Start or Keep:
- Loving me unconditionally and showing me that you care about and love me.
- Teaching me things that will be useful in life—like taxes, budgets, and resumes.
- Helping me to do things on my own and to learn how to handle issues as they arise.
- Listening to me, challenging me, and supporting me.
- Spending time with me: Having dinner together, going on weekend outings, and watching TV at night as a family.
- Being supportive when I am stressed and giving me down time to work things out.
- Asking if I need your help…I might.
- Focusing on learning and not as much on grades.
- Giving me structure, even though it’s annoying.
- Celebrating me as an individual; accepting who I am and what I care about.
- Keeping the emphasis on a good work ethic.
- Trusting me and letting me try new things, even if it scares you.
- 2 things our teens ask that we stop doing to help them along successful paths to adulthood:
- Expecting me to be so perfect.
- Having super-high expectations that I can’t achieve.
- Being mean to each other/blaming.
- Not trusting me without a reason.
- Being overly worried about everything.
- Pretending you have never made a mistake.
- Comparing me to my siblings or other kids.
- Not letting me make decisions! (A little guidance/advice is always helpful, though.)
- Being so involved in my schoolwork and always checking Skyward.
- Treating school as a competition and not stressing the learning experience.
- Giving me the silent treatment.
- Treating me like one of your investment accounts.
Adapted from survey of Bainbridge Island teens on 4/23/16.